"I'm sure what you're saying is right, but I don't want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women..."
"This doesn't make sense..."
I'd like to address these ideas.
Because I believed that "being a nice guy" MUST be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN'T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.
As you probably know, it's hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you're trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they're actually right... and you're wrong.
Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed EVERYTHING for me.
Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.
Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get, and all kinds of other "illogical" things really do work when it comes to attracting women.
But then I had a dilemma...
I love the idea of being successful with women, but I HATE the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and misleading, etc.
Deep down, I want to be a good guy.
I decided that there MUST be a way to make this work, and to attract women without being ABUSIVE.
The good news is that THERE IS a way.
But it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.
First, let me say that I believe I've found a way to take the things that JERKS do to attract women and use them WITHOUT THE ABUSE. When you learn to do this, you can really have the best of both worlds... you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what they REALLY want, and what REALLY attracts them.
So WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?
The short answer is that they don't CHOOSE it, it's something that just HAPPENS.
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.
It's an emotional response to certain things.
Women don't CHOOSE to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for young, beautiful, hard bodied women.
Nature has pre-programmed MEN with a mechanism that works like this:
SEE HOT WOMEN ---> FEEL ATTRACTION
Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.
Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome men... but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.
So again, the short answer is that it's just something that "happens" inside of a women. She doesn't "choose" it.
If you want the long answer to this, check out my CD Series "Advance Dating Techniques". I've spent a long time figuring this one out, and I guarantee that it will blow your mind when you find out what's REALLY going on...
So what is it about the "jerk" that creates this powerful, uncontrollable ATTRACTION inside of women?
Let me answer first by telling you what IT'S NOT:
It's NOT the abuse (not usually anyway). I don't believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the "jerk personality".
I think that jerks JUST HAPPEN to also possess several ATTRACTIVE qualities that are SO POWERFUL that that they literally make women BLIND to the abuse... women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities.
Here's a PARTIAL list of what creates that ATTRACTION:
Of course, there are many more, but this will get us started for this discussion.
The qualities I've listed above, when presented correctly, trigger the natural "attraction mechanism" inside of women.
Jerks have taken natural qualities that are ATTRACTIVE to women a little "too far".
But because they're still there, the qualities trigger the attraction anyway.
So what does this mean to you?
Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be a good guy and attract women at the same time.
You're probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a different way, become a little more comfortable being challenging to women, etc. But in the end, you'll find that this will get you what you want, and still allow you to treat women well... all on your own terms.
It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to about their relationship problems, and how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again... you can be the guy who they're dating and sleeping with!
This weekend I'd like you to think about what I've said here in this newsletter.
Think about how you can cultivate the four qualities that I've mentioned above into your personality.
See if you can be a little less predictable.
Don't let outside events or women control you.
Be more of a challenge.
Stop being submissive... and get in touch with that side of you that is more dominant (I said "dominant", not "domineering").