A month or two after they met they went on holiday together. Sarah was still enraptured. The holiday was idyllic and the sex was great! Craig invited Sarah to stay with him on his home ground and that's when things started to crack.... .
Both of them thought they had found 'that special person'.
Sarah discovered a very different Craig to that wild spontaneous lover that had first enticed her. Craig had a crisis at work and he had to spend a lot of time there - more than he had planned. When he returned he was moody and short tempered with Sarah. He accused her of being dependent. She was shocked - during her time in a very hostile foreign country where women were not at ease to wander where they wished, she had been to visit business contacts, had lunch with several newly introduced women and generally been fairly self sufficient.
Craig on the other hand had an issue about responsibility. He felt responsible for everyone
and when he couldn't cope and be responsible, he blamed them. Hmmm.
One evening Sarah reached out to Craig and asked him when he would be finishing his newspaper... with that look and touch that says 'I want you .. .NOW!'... Craig reacted brusquely and said 'Why are you always bothering me - it'll happen naturally'. Crack crack...Sarah was horrified. She loved sex and she loved it with Craig and she had been so used to a totally full on honest sexual relationship with her husband... She felt rejected and dishonoured.
Craig was not used to women initiating sex. He felt pressurised because in his world view men initiated and when he wasn't in charge, he started to feel insecure and angry.
A few weeks after this, Sarah came to see me. She was down about the way the relationship was going. They had made so many plans, it had all seemed so idyllic at first - what went wrong?