Too good to be true?
“He’s warm, he’s emotional, he’s intelligent, he’s funny, he loves his work and to cap it all he’s good looking, sexy and he adores me.” As Liz described her new man, I felt decidedly envious. Their first date had lasted an entire weekend. He had sent her 3 to 4 emails every day since they met a week earlier. After the second date, they had already planned two long weekends away together.
How about you? What kind of people do you attract? If you are attracting the same type of
man or woman all the time and things aren't working out, ask yourself, what is it in you that attracts them? What kind of man or woman do you want to attract? And how would you have to be to attract someone like this.
Liz was a highly attractive 46 year old very flirtatious woman who hadn't spent much time without a man!
She welcomed Andy into her life with open arms, not realising she was making exactly the same mistake again. Liz was a dandelion seed waiting for an attraction addict like Andy to blow her every which way. She was also, like many women, an attraction addict herself.
When Liz first met Andy he seemed like a modern-day hero in designer gear waiting to whisk her away in his new Mercedes to a land of bliss and romance. Later as I considered our conversation, the envy dissipated and my cynic’s voice asked ‘Is this for real?’ Are there men out there who are like that? Is romance alive and well and living in Stoke on Trent?
Swing High Swing Low
Not any more it isn’t. After 7 weeks of swinging from high to low, Liz has finally and reluctantly broken off with Andy. Why? Andy was an attraction addict [AA]. Andy was attracted to Liz but he wasn’t addicted to Liz, he was addicted to the perfection that he had ascribed to Liz and the excitement of the new romance. Liz in turn, being a woman, fell into it immediately. The more Andy adored and perfected her, the more she adored and perfected him.
Girlie-think - How many children shall we have?
Most women will recognise the 'go off into the future and create relationship perfection with new man after only knowing him a few hours' scenario! We women do it all the time. There are plenty of female attraction addicts. As she begins to fantasise about life with 'new man' she may brush aside tiny matters like her new man has told her he's not the faithful type. They all know that once he is trapped in the web of desire for her, he'll change! And indeed, unfaithful man may become faithful man one day or he may not! If this rings true for you, relax.. It is possible to change and be more open to reality...but that's another article!