A 23 year old male friend works in a trendy London bar. He is a total woman magnet. The bar deliberately employs guys that are attractive and magnetic because they have a lot of early 20's very late teens, sophisticated women punters. This guy has enormous success with women. They flock round him. I thought I'd ask him what he finds attractive in a woman!
He said that she had to have one thing about her that would make him look twice. It could be her smile, her hair, the way she walks or her voice or great legs/face/body/whatever. That one thing will set him off and into action. Then she has to be interested in him and able to talk.
She wants me
A sophisticated, charismatic, good looking 44 yr-old male friend answered with a very long and inspiring list of thoughts. A little tongue in cheek, his mail began
"What I want in a woman is ... when I lift my right eyebrow, her nipples go hard as rocks.. and when I lift my left eyebrow, she creams her jeans.."
He wrote this with a wry humour, but the sense of it came from the male's deep primitive sexual origins. Nipples going hard and wet pussies are all signs of a woman's desire for a man. A man feels hot when a woman wants him.
You don't have to go to those extremes, yet [and how exciting will it be when you can maintain hot desire for your lover/partner just by thinking about it. [See generating sexual energy at will]. I really think that if a woman is interested in a man, she does have to show him. Men need reassurance too. They need to be wanted as much as we do.
This guy also looks at the way a woman moves. Is she graceful and sylphlike in her
movements. He also notices when a woman is giving out the kind of energy he likes.
Once I pointed out a very slim, traditionally attractive, blond about 23 yrs old -she may have been a model because she was carrying a model's portfolio case. I said 'what about her'. He glanced, and glanced away 'No energy'. He was right, she was 'beautiful' but energetically
Another very earthy, attractive and sensual man said to me 'I like a woman to be in touch with her own body'. He also said he looked for 'that spark of energy'. This is a very kinesthetically oriented man. He sees but it is primarily translated in his feelings. He is attracted to the vibes, sparks and senses the energy of women.
Keeping the fire alight
How do you move? You know, I think the way someone moves is largely determined by the
way they are at that moment. When you are really feeling good, sparkly and being yourself,
you tend to change your posture and your whole physiology comes together to create a
special energy that flows from your pores.
When this energy goes out alongside your individual chemical messengers, someone who is a match for you will pick up on it. Doesn't it make sense to be like this more and more. You could meet a special person anywhere at any time.
Some heating systems rely on a boiler. The boiler roars into action when hot water is required and it subsides to the merest pilot light when it is not. If you have used one of these systems, you will know how important it is to keep the pilot light burning. Is your pilot light lit, or has it gone out. Time to relight the fire.